Been thinking about relationship messes at work; same old same old human miscommunication, projection and downright unconsciousness. And sometimes it seems to me that the politics of the playground rule!
So how do we resolve that? My heart sinks when I think of the industries & professions that have cropped up to deal with this issue alone… 1:1 coaching, team coaching, HR, mediation, conflict resolution and Uncle Tom Cobley and all.
I would love to be totally redundant and that there were no relationship messes at work… or anywhere else for that matter.
But without individuals within organisations committing to personal growth work, i.e. exploring their selves and becoming familiar with what makes them tick to the point of making choices about how they behave… big gasp of air! Both a long sentence and a tall order I suspect.
But without that awareness and ability to choose, the pain of relationship messes is destined to continue. And so often people ‘daydream’ about causation, giving themselves even more pain by personalising other people’s not so hot behaviours. Sometimes that’s reality and often it’s not!
So a simple maxim which applies both to people who cause messes and those who consider themselves recipients of others’ messes. If you make a mess and can clear it up, do so… then move on. If you can’t clear it up… just move on!
What relationship mess could you deal with today or whenever you’re back at the coalface?